I suffer from the nice girl syndrome!
I have a strong desire to please others and offer help proactively. However, I’ve noticed that this can sometimes make people feel pressured rather than truly helped.
In the end, they might even feel like they’re doing me a favor instead of appreciating my assistance.
I realized this problem a long time ago, but I don’t know why I still can’t get rid of this bad habit!
Ivy! Pay attention! It’s not your responsibility to make people happy, it’s not your duty to anticipate people’s preferences and offer your help accordingly and proactively! Let them ask you for help! Don’t offer your help unsolicitedly, you are devaluing yourself! Period!
Ivy Cao 